A young mother, frustrated with her failure at disciplining her child, went online looking for answers. “What am I doing wrong? Why does my child not listen to me? What more should I be doing?”, she kept asking. As she rummaged through the sea of parenting information that struck her, she stumbled upon a quote by a wise monk.
“In the realm of endeavours that seamlessly intertwine pain & joy, struggle & reward, motherhood surpasses as the paramount experience.”
Would you agree? I do!
As a first time Mom, I have experienced the joy of those cute smiles & cuddles, and the pain of not-knowing what to do & how to do it. I’ve experienced the reward of those proud moments & milestones, and the struggle of (not) being & doing my best all the time.
The good news is that this great dichotomy brought to me one great realization – To me, family is everything.
Connected Parenting is an idea & approach I’m drawn to because I value CONNECTION above everything else in my relationship with my child. I’ve realized that staying connected is the secret sauce to not just survive the challenges of parenting but to thrive and live a life filled with joy, meaning & everlasting memories with our children.
This article is for you if:
- You value love, connection & peace in your parenting.
- You wish to discipline your child using methods that preserve your connection, unlike traditional harsh parenting methods.
- You wish to raise kids who are well behaved & can regulate their emotions in positive & healthy ways, without harming them physically & mentally with your words or actions.
By the end of this article, you will learn:
- What is Connected Parenting?
- Does it work?
- Pros & Cons of Connected Parenting
- How to get started?
What is Connected Parenting?
Connected Parenting is all about raising children with love.
Remember the moment your eyes fell upon your little baby just born into your arms? I’m sure you were washed with love from head to toe. Sadly, it didn’t take long for your natural loving instincts to get watered down by unsolicited advice & fearful notions.
“Too much love with spoil her.” “You need to be strict with her. She must fear you. That’s the only way to discipline her.”
Sounds familiar? I understand. And that’s why I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to parent with fear. LOVE IS MORE POWERFUL THAN FEAR.
“Love has a mighty strength that brings out our best selves, while fear, on the other hand, reveals the not-so-great side within us.”
Connected Parenting is all about being your child’s loving guide to help them reach their inherent infinite potential. It is about achieving the much-needed peace & discipline in your family without being harsh or aggressive. It is about being someone your child loves immensely & runs to when they’re struggling, and not someone they fear and run away from.
It is the art of nurturing our children in a way that infuses them with valuable life skills like emotional regulation, problem solving, decision making and significant values like resilience, kindness & empathy. It is about laying the groundwork for your child to bloom into a responsible, peaceful & successful adult.
Connected Parenting is where love, discipline, and respect take center stage in the grand expedition of raising awesome little humans. Picture this: a parenting approach that invites your child’s cooperation only with the power of your connection with them. Yes, it’s a real thing!
Sounds like something you’d like to try? You’re welcome. Grab a front-row seat, because the show is about to begin, and it’s going to be nothing short of magical!
Does it work?
Well, you’d say something works when it gives you the desired results, right?
Then let me tell you – Everything you desire as a parent can be achieved in the realm of Connected Parenting. That’s because this approach is rooted deeply in love. Nothing bad can come out of a virtue as pure as love.
The more important question is: Can you make it work?
Imagine that I gift you a brand new car. It’s got the looks, it’s got the most amazing features and it WORKS! But you never see it move. Why? Because you’ve got to get into the driving seat and make it work! Right? No rocket science there.
The same is true about Connected Parenting. Are you ready to learn how to drive this car called “Connected Parenting” so that it can get you to your desired goals & destinations?
Yes!? Then I’m at your service to help you along the way! I’ll be your friend and partner in this parenting adventure!
Pros & Cons of Connected Parenting
Before we get started, let’s explore the pros and cons of this transformative approach.
Benefits of Connected Parenting:
Disciplined, Well-Behaved Kids with Connection: Picture this—kids who not only behave well but also maintain a strong connection with you. Connected Parenting allows you to achieve both, seamlessly blending discipline with love & respect.
Peace in Your Family: Say goodbye to chaos and hello to tranquility. Connected Parenting brings peace into your family dynamics, creating a harmonious environment for everyone.
Guilt-Free Parenting: No more guilt trips for being harsh. Connected Parenting enables you to guide your child without resorting to harsh methods, fostering a guilt-free parenting experience.
Long-Term Results: The beauty of Connected Parenting lies in its long-term impact. Parenting is not just about the dos and don’ts, getting them to do what you want in the moment when they’re little. It’s about instilling values and nurturing an internal compass within your children. Your kids learn to behave well and stay disciplined because they genuinely understand the value of it, not out of fear. Connected Parenting lays the foundation by teaching kids to do the right thing because they genuinely want to, eventually helping them develop into responsible, sensible & successful adults.
Unbreakable Bond: Despite the daily ups and downs of parenting, Connected Parenting ensures you have an unbreakable bond with your child. They’ll love you, trust you, and most importantly, not be afraid of you (& that’s a good thing!).
Disadvantages of Connected Parenting
Time and Patience Investment: Yes, the golden rule of Connected Parenting is an investment of your time and patience. This approach requires you to work with your child as a guide rather than opting for a quick-fix “fix your child” strategy.
Sure, traditional harsh parenting methods might seem quick and effective in the moment, but Connected Parenting is about the long game. It’s a learning journey, and here’s the secret: a nugget of practical insight & a tiny action in the right direction every day is all you need to start transforming into the loving, connected parent you aspire to be.
Do you feel ready to dive in? Then let the transformation begin! 🌈💪
How to get started?
The first step to getting started with Connected Parenting is becoming completely aware & accepting that your current parenting style needs a revamp. How would you know that? You’ll know by answering a few simple questions.
- Do you feel angry, frustrated, confused or helpless as a parent often? Yes / No
- Do you often have to resort to yelling, threatening, tricking or bribing to get your child to obey? Yes / No
- Do you wish you knew better & positive ways to handle your child’s behavior? Yes / No
If you answered “Yes” to all of the above questions, it is a clear indication that something does not feel right to you about your current parenting style. It’s time to pay attention to this feeling & take action.
All this while, you were unaware of better approaches, but now you are AWARE. You know there is a solution right around the corner, a few clicks away. That’s a ray of hope & sunshine for you, right? Hold on to it. I’ll tell you more.
Secondly, to get started with Connected Parenting, what’s most important is to have a clear vision & goal. Begin with the end in mind. So, what’s your ultimate parenting goal – one that overarches everything else? May be you’ve never thought on these lines before. So, let me help you with that.
In Connected Parenting, our goal is to create ONE CONNECTED FAMILY – A family of your dreams, a family that’s forever bound with everlasting love & cherished memories. Head on to this article here, where I’ll hold your hand, show you the larger picture and guide you with how to take the first steps towards making this dream a reality. See you there!
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